Consistency! Consistency!
Blogging consistency.... I believe I need a 101 for dummies on this!
So... to continue with the journey - walking didn't go too well with the weather schedule, due to rain and extreme temperatures... then these was nights of cooking that altered eating habits. Still not too bad on any changes. This coming week will be a better week without distractions.
Blog about ALS challenges coming.....
Saturday, August 23, 2014
Tuesday, August 12, 2014
Digital Detox update plus more!!
So, digital detox has it's lows and highs.... so far the FB is working carbs and sugars not so good. I guess running around with my nieces and god-daughters we my lows but, on a few days I am able to be more consistent with the no carbs and sugars.
Something I should of posted months ago but hadn't, didn't etc.... I have been having issues with my liver which steamed from my sickle-cell disease (see my sickle cell disease tab) sooo, after almost 5 months a biopsy was done and now I am on Prednisone (steriods) so guess what?... uumm that means weight gain :( ... Have no fear for the first time in my life I think I am finally going to take the challenge of a healthy eating life style and exercising as a daily routine. I have gone down that road many many times before each time failing, falling, crashing, plateau and burning. I am making a blog and journal commitment to see this through the end.... of .... time! So come along and journey with me....
Day 1 (August 12, 2014)
Breakfast: 6:45-7:00 am
Chia Tea with NO SUGAR - aaahhh pretty good if you ask, I think I can continue this.
2 Hard Boiled eggs
Mid-morning snack 10:30 - 11:00
Snacking on grapes - easy right
Lunch 12:1:30 pm
My smart co-worker (which I love and grateful for) is ordering Papa John's Pizza for the office. (Long story short, it's Papa John's fault's fault they were 40 mins late getting us Pizza for a meeting last week and now we have $124.00 credit to spend)..... I can't be a party pooper but will watch my pizza in-take.
Afternoon snack 3:00 pm
Baby carrots and peanut butter
Dinner 5:30 - 6:30
Still working on it as I write this blog
Exercise - 2 miles of walking briskly
Snack if I must have one ( glass of Almond milk or Mango)
Something I should of posted months ago but hadn't, didn't etc.... I have been having issues with my liver which steamed from my sickle-cell disease (see my sickle cell disease tab) sooo, after almost 5 months a biopsy was done and now I am on Prednisone (steriods) so guess what?... uumm that means weight gain :( ... Have no fear for the first time in my life I think I am finally going to take the challenge of a healthy eating life style and exercising as a daily routine. I have gone down that road many many times before each time failing, falling, crashing, plateau and burning. I am making a blog and journal commitment to see this through the end.... of .... time! So come along and journey with me....
Day 1 (August 12, 2014)
Breakfast: 6:45-7:00 am
Chia Tea with NO SUGAR - aaahhh pretty good if you ask, I think I can continue this.
2 Hard Boiled eggs
Mid-morning snack 10:30 - 11:00
Snacking on grapes - easy right
Lunch 12:1:30 pm
My smart co-worker (which I love and grateful for) is ordering Papa John's Pizza for the office. (Long story short, it's Papa John's fault's fault they were 40 mins late getting us Pizza for a meeting last week and now we have $124.00 credit to spend)..... I can't be a party pooper but will watch my pizza in-take.
Afternoon snack 3:00 pm
Baby carrots and peanut butter
Dinner 5:30 - 6:30
Still working on it as I write this blog
Exercise - 2 miles of walking briskly
Snack if I must have one ( glass of Almond milk or Mango)
Wednesday, August 6, 2014
30 -days Digital Detox
Not sure why I did not think of blogging this when I began... but I am going to now.
So I started this 30 - day detox from Facebook, Instant-Gram, Sugars and Carbs... okay so I have not been doing great with the Carbs and sugar. Took the kids to CeCe's Pizza yesterday and also Chic-fil-a bad choices for me. Today I am recovering and starting again....
I also wanted to spend more time reading and less time tubing... well last night I actually turned off the TV (aka tube) and listened to music - I really enjoyed that evening off. I think I can do this.
My new Jam I am feeling:
So I started this 30 - day detox from Facebook, Instant-Gram, Sugars and Carbs... okay so I have not been doing great with the Carbs and sugar. Took the kids to CeCe's Pizza yesterday and also Chic-fil-a bad choices for me. Today I am recovering and starting again....
I also wanted to spend more time reading and less time tubing... well last night I actually turned off the TV (aka tube) and listened to music - I really enjoyed that evening off. I think I can do this.
My new Jam I am feeling:
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
If I was a black girl in love with myself - Author Unknown
In my quest
to find love I have failed many times.... Yet recently I came to the
realization that in order to find true and healthy love I must first be in love
with myself! So I'm starting an empowerment movement to ask one million black women
to fall in love with themselves!
If I was a
black girl in love with myself
I would need to just sit alone with myself to know myself. I would know that being alone does not mean lonely. I would sit with my fears and try to figure out, why I'm afraid of the dark, scared of silences, terrified of having to sit alone with myself.
I would need to just sit alone with myself to know myself. I would know that being alone does not mean lonely. I would sit with my fears and try to figure out, why I'm afraid of the dark, scared of silences, terrified of having to sit alone with myself.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself
I would choose healthy relationships. One's that help me grow, make me a better person, feeds and nature me. I wouldn't settle for anyone else's husband or man. I wouldn't sign up for partnerships that are physically or emotionally abusive. I would be clear that I deserve better.
I would choose healthy relationships. One's that help me grow, make me a better person, feeds and nature me. I wouldn't settle for anyone else's husband or man. I wouldn't sign up for partnerships that are physically or emotionally abusive. I would be clear that I deserve better.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself
I would choose someone who has fully chosen me. Someone who wants to work shit out with me! He/she desires to wake up with me. Someone who deep belly laughs with me, I would choose someone who makes my tummy flips, who misses me when I leave the room. Someone who encourages me to be a better and kinder person.
I would choose someone who has fully chosen me. Someone who wants to work shit out with me! He/she desires to wake up with me. Someone who deep belly laughs with me, I would choose someone who makes my tummy flips, who misses me when I leave the room. Someone who encourages me to be a better and kinder person.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself
I would actively work on being less critical of myself. I would look in the
mirror and not wish you away. Instead, every day I would loudly declare,
"I'm going to take care of you! You are beautiful! I'm proud of you! I
love you! I love that KINK in your hair your beautiful nose, your wide spread
grin, your crooked tooth, that scar on your belly. I would exercise; walk a few
steps daily to just honor you! I would not compare you to other woman’s bodies.
I would give thanks to God that he gave me another day with you.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself
I would spend less money on expensive shoes and more money on therapy. Because I would realize I need to do soul work and not sole work! I need to heal those child hood scares. I need to learn how to forgive all the people who did not do enough to make me feel loved, important, or wanted. Therapy would help me to be ok with asking for what I wanted from my family, my partnerships, my friendships. Therapy would help me deal with the depression that often creeps in leaving me feeling lonely, suicidal and unworthy.
I would spend less money on expensive shoes and more money on therapy. Because I would realize I need to do soul work and not sole work! I need to heal those child hood scares. I need to learn how to forgive all the people who did not do enough to make me feel loved, important, or wanted. Therapy would help me to be ok with asking for what I wanted from my family, my partnerships, my friendships. Therapy would help me deal with the depression that often creeps in leaving me feeling lonely, suicidal and unworthy.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself
I would take the time to examine my sista' circle. Do my friendships support unhealthy dynamics of petty jealousies, back biting, subtle put-downs? Am I everybody's super womyn, am I always the shoulder to cry on, am I that "go to girl" and yet there's no place for me to go too?
I would take the time to examine my sista' circle. Do my friendships support unhealthy dynamics of petty jealousies, back biting, subtle put-downs? Am I everybody's super womyn, am I always the shoulder to cry on, am I that "go to girl" and yet there's no place for me to go too?
If I was a
black girl in love with myself.
I would question all the spoken and unspoken "TRUTHS" that my mother told me about myself . Did my mother counsel me from a place of fear, anger, hurt, and ignorance? I would lovingly accept that my mother did the best that she could but that doesn't mean that her best is now MY best! I would view my mother in the same loving way that I view myself, as a person who tries but sometimes fails. . I would know that I'm not a replica of my mother or grandmother. I do not have to repeat unhealthy family cycles or dynamics. I would forgive my mother.
I would question all the spoken and unspoken "TRUTHS" that my mother told me about myself . Did my mother counsel me from a place of fear, anger, hurt, and ignorance? I would lovingly accept that my mother did the best that she could but that doesn't mean that her best is now MY best! I would view my mother in the same loving way that I view myself, as a person who tries but sometimes fails. . I would know that I'm not a replica of my mother or grandmother. I do not have to repeat unhealthy family cycles or dynamics. I would forgive my mother.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself.
I would write my father a letter. Mail it to him. Never mail it. I would tell him all the things that I wanted him to do and be for me. I would tell him all the things that he doesn't know about me. I would tell him that even as a grown womyn I still look for him and need him. I would tell him about every super daddy hero story that I created and how he lived up to a few of them but failed me on so many~I would forgive him.
I would write my father a letter. Mail it to him. Never mail it. I would tell him all the things that I wanted him to do and be for me. I would tell him all the things that he doesn't know about me. I would tell him that even as a grown womyn I still look for him and need him. I would tell him about every super daddy hero story that I created and how he lived up to a few of them but failed me on so many~I would forgive him.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself.
I would whisper in my daughter's ear each night how beautiful, smart, creative and amazing she is. I would not publicly shame or embarrass her in order to reprimand her. I would not believe that beating or spanking her is good for her. I would know that sitting with her and explaining right from wrong is better for her tiny soul and body. I would encourage her to disappoint others and me in order to remain true to her spirit, her soul and to herself. I would tell her that no matter what she did I could never stop loving her. I would address in therapy all hidden jealousy, fear, and anger that her tiny presence stirs in me. I would know that these are my issues and are not the burden of my daughter to carry.
I would whisper in my daughter's ear each night how beautiful, smart, creative and amazing she is. I would not publicly shame or embarrass her in order to reprimand her. I would not believe that beating or spanking her is good for her. I would know that sitting with her and explaining right from wrong is better for her tiny soul and body. I would encourage her to disappoint others and me in order to remain true to her spirit, her soul and to herself. I would tell her that no matter what she did I could never stop loving her. I would address in therapy all hidden jealousy, fear, and anger that her tiny presence stirs in me. I would know that these are my issues and are not the burden of my daughter to carry.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself
I would cry often. Do big public ugly cries. Allow my tears to flow down my beautiful brown face. Cry because I'm hurt. Cry because I feel joy. Cry because I feel angry. I would not believe that I need to be given something to really cry about! I would know that is safe to say that I'm hurt, it's ok for me to NOT have all the answers. I would know that I don't always need to be strong, in order to carry everyone's hurt and shame on my too small back. I would know it's ok to cry about the sexual secrets that I was told as a young girl to keep. It was not my fault. I give myself permission to cry in my car at a sad song on the radio.
I would cry often. Do big public ugly cries. Allow my tears to flow down my beautiful brown face. Cry because I'm hurt. Cry because I feel joy. Cry because I feel angry. I would not believe that I need to be given something to really cry about! I would know that is safe to say that I'm hurt, it's ok for me to NOT have all the answers. I would know that I don't always need to be strong, in order to carry everyone's hurt and shame on my too small back. I would know it's ok to cry about the sexual secrets that I was told as a young girl to keep. It was not my fault. I give myself permission to cry in my car at a sad song on the radio.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself.
I would rest. That doesn't mean I'm lazy or lack ambition. I would light a candle. Read a book. (Perhaps, you can heal your life!) I would do nothing. Sit in my pjs all day. Bake a chocolate cake and share it if I wish, but perhaps eat it all by myself! The world will not fall apart while I rest. I don't need to be completely drained in order to rest. The most loving act I can do is take some time to rest.
I would rest. That doesn't mean I'm lazy or lack ambition. I would light a candle. Read a book. (Perhaps, you can heal your life!) I would do nothing. Sit in my pjs all day. Bake a chocolate cake and share it if I wish, but perhaps eat it all by myself! The world will not fall apart while I rest. I don't need to be completely drained in order to rest. The most loving act I can do is take some time to rest.
If I was a
black girl in love with myself.
I would have mini conversations with God/Universe in my bed, in the shower, at my desk at work. I would thank God for everything he has given me. I would ask him to show me a path. I would trust that everything in my life is in divine and perfect order and that God has a plan bigger for me than I could even imagine! I would dream beyond my circumstances!
I would have mini conversations with God/Universe in my bed, in the shower, at my desk at work. I would thank God for everything he has given me. I would ask him to show me a path. I would trust that everything in my life is in divine and perfect order and that God has a plan bigger for me than I could even imagine! I would dream beyond my circumstances!
If I was a
black girl in love with myself
I would smile at every black girl regardless of their response to me. I would view them as allies and not my competition! I would cheer on their victories as if they were my own! I would connect amazing black woman with each other and encourage them to get to know each other. I would offer to babysit their kids! I would have potlucks and sista brunches. I would write empowering and loving messages on their facebook pages. I would send them this piece! I would randomly tweet how amazing they are. I would encourage my sista's to be as smart as Michelle, as outspoken as Whoopi, as creative as Shonda, as loving as Oprah, and as wise as Maya.
I would smile at every black girl regardless of their response to me. I would view them as allies and not my competition! I would cheer on their victories as if they were my own! I would connect amazing black woman with each other and encourage them to get to know each other. I would offer to babysit their kids! I would have potlucks and sista brunches. I would write empowering and loving messages on their facebook pages. I would send them this piece! I would randomly tweet how amazing they are. I would encourage my sista's to be as smart as Michelle, as outspoken as Whoopi, as creative as Shonda, as loving as Oprah, and as wise as Maya.
I would create safe places for them in my heart. I would send a black girl some flowers just because... and send myself some too!
Thursday, May 29, 2014
35 THINGS YOU AND YOUR MATE SHOULD AGREE UPON BEFORE MARRIAGE..
Copied and pasted these questions from an article.... interesting!
1. Does the toilet paper go over or under the roll?
2. Cats? Dogs? Both?
3. Can you eat breakfast for dinner?
4. Cold pizza: yes or no?
5. Is it acceptable to open presents as they arrive or do you have to wait for the actual birthday or holiday?
6. Should the dirty forks and knives go in the dishwasher with the handle sticking out of the utensil tray or down in the utensil tray?
7. Is it acceptable to leave dishes in the sink to "soak" overnight, or do they need to be cleaned before bed?
8. Toothpaste: cap on or cap off?
9. Again on the toothpaste: roll it from the bottom or just squeeze really hard?
10. Are towels a one-time use item or do you use the same towel until laundry day?
11. How about washcloths?
12. Road trip or flying?
13. What's the right thread count for sheets?
14. What brand of toilet paper?
15. Mayo or Miracle Whip?
16. Pepsi or Coke?
17. Can you eat the holiday candy out in the display bowl or must it be left there for display?
18. What is YOUR definition of camping?
19. Turn the thermostat down when you go out or leave it alone?
20. At what point is a garbage bag too full to stuff more trash in it?
21. How many times is it acceptable to hit the snooze button?
22. Thrift store shopping: great deals or gross?
23. How far in advance is it OK to plan a vacation?
24. Restaurant reservations: necessary or too restrictive?
25. Roller coasters: love 'em or hate 'em?
26. More chocolate chips, less cookie or more cookie, less chips?
27. How much orange juice must be left in the container for it to be returned to the fridge?
28. Chip clips or just roll the bag up?
29. Call the doctor or just take some medicine at home?
30. Where is the prime location for the TV remote to stay?
31. Is it OK to have a TV in the bedroom?
32. Should folded clothes be put away, or is it OK to just pull as needed from the basket of clean laundry?
33. Do you need to write a grocery list or just wait until you're walking around the store to figure out what you need?
34. Making the bed: must-do or waste of time because you're just going to get back in it?
35. Is it OK to shave/clip toenails in the living room?
1. Does the toilet paper go over or under the roll?
2. Cats? Dogs? Both?
3. Can you eat breakfast for dinner?
4. Cold pizza: yes or no?
5. Is it acceptable to open presents as they arrive or do you have to wait for the actual birthday or holiday?
6. Should the dirty forks and knives go in the dishwasher with the handle sticking out of the utensil tray or down in the utensil tray?
7. Is it acceptable to leave dishes in the sink to "soak" overnight, or do they need to be cleaned before bed?
8. Toothpaste: cap on or cap off?
9. Again on the toothpaste: roll it from the bottom or just squeeze really hard?
10. Are towels a one-time use item or do you use the same towel until laundry day?
11. How about washcloths?
12. Road trip or flying?
13. What's the right thread count for sheets?
14. What brand of toilet paper?
15. Mayo or Miracle Whip?
16. Pepsi or Coke?
17. Can you eat the holiday candy out in the display bowl or must it be left there for display?
18. What is YOUR definition of camping?
19. Turn the thermostat down when you go out or leave it alone?
20. At what point is a garbage bag too full to stuff more trash in it?
21. How many times is it acceptable to hit the snooze button?
22. Thrift store shopping: great deals or gross?
23. How far in advance is it OK to plan a vacation?
24. Restaurant reservations: necessary or too restrictive?
25. Roller coasters: love 'em or hate 'em?
26. More chocolate chips, less cookie or more cookie, less chips?
27. How much orange juice must be left in the container for it to be returned to the fridge?
28. Chip clips or just roll the bag up?
29. Call the doctor or just take some medicine at home?
30. Where is the prime location for the TV remote to stay?
31. Is it OK to have a TV in the bedroom?
32. Should folded clothes be put away, or is it OK to just pull as needed from the basket of clean laundry?
33. Do you need to write a grocery list or just wait until you're walking around the store to figure out what you need?
34. Making the bed: must-do or waste of time because you're just going to get back in it?
35. Is it OK to shave/clip toenails in the living room?
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
Spanking or Whooping
Random thought: (In my Caribbean accent)
I see all these videos of parents whooping the hind-pads of their kids... and everyone and their mama is entitled to their opinions... I have no opinion to each it's own some of these kids need a good whooping... some it's just abusive to me.. but again whateva dat eh my chile - cuz mine got beat! Just like I got beat - my mama said I was stubborn and did things just because I was told not to and always had a smart a$$ talk back or rolling eyes, sucking teeth (nothing eh change in 2014).... well who doesn't ha ha ha! It's called testing your parents and how far you can go and how much you can get away with. (my issue is the reason for the whooping, so your chile wearing clothes too small eh - is who buy it? your chile posting nude selfies - is who give them a cell with a camera at their age eh? your chile looking for attention - is who ignoring them at home that they need to go seek it else where eh) Just a random thought before a whooping goes down!!
I believe that parents need to take a look at the punishment and the crime. You cannot punish your child for something you allow, to me that defeats the purpose of the punishment. I never had dressing problems with my son, he does not wear sagging pants - why? because I bought his clothes and belts, I do not condone sagging pants dressing in my house, at school or at church... therefore he is not allowed to do it. He is now 22 years old and do not feel comfortable with his pants under his butt. As parents, we some times have to take responsibility for what God has placed in our lives to cherish and nurture.
Feel good song today: Will Smith "Just the two of us"
I see all these videos of parents whooping the hind-pads of their kids... and everyone and their mama is entitled to their opinions... I have no opinion to each it's own some of these kids need a good whooping... some it's just abusive to me.. but again whateva dat eh my chile - cuz mine got beat! Just like I got beat - my mama said I was stubborn and did things just because I was told not to and always had a smart a$$ talk back or rolling eyes, sucking teeth (nothing eh change in 2014).... well who doesn't ha ha ha! It's called testing your parents and how far you can go and how much you can get away with. (my issue is the reason for the whooping, so your chile wearing clothes too small eh - is who buy it? your chile posting nude selfies - is who give them a cell with a camera at their age eh? your chile looking for attention - is who ignoring them at home that they need to go seek it else where eh) Just a random thought before a whooping goes down!!
I believe that parents need to take a look at the punishment and the crime. You cannot punish your child for something you allow, to me that defeats the purpose of the punishment. I never had dressing problems with my son, he does not wear sagging pants - why? because I bought his clothes and belts, I do not condone sagging pants dressing in my house, at school or at church... therefore he is not allowed to do it. He is now 22 years old and do not feel comfortable with his pants under his butt. As parents, we some times have to take responsibility for what God has placed in our lives to cherish and nurture.
Feel good song today: Will Smith "Just the two of us"
Friday, April 18, 2014
Good Friday!
I do not like people who think they always have the answer, their ideas and thoughts supersede yours, their family stories are more important than yours. These people are unteachable, unreasonable and just appear to be fools in my book.
I am trying to develop a new persona of myself to not let people like that mess with my growth, but let me tell you it is a hard pill to swallow because I want to call them out on their ish. Anyway, today is Good Friday and our minds should be set right on the meaning of this weekend. It's not about pretty clothes, hats or shoes, it's not about eggs or rabbits but about our savior Jesus Christ who died for our sins.
Easter reminds me I serve a God who stayed focused to finish His mission. From the day He began His mission, Jesus was headed towards the cross. He knew what He had to do in order to save the world. He knew there was no other way to satisfy God but to be the ultimate sacrifice to pay for the sins of the world. When He was arrested, He did not say, “Peter promised to be here. Since he left, I can leave too!” When He was tortured He did not say, “I did not expect it to be this hard.”
When He could not feel God’s presence the next words out of His mouth were, “Into your hands I commit my spirit.” How can you commit your spirit into the hands of someone you just said wasn’t there? Though He did not feel God’s presence, He chose to believe God was there. And He chose to finish in faith even when He did not feel God’s presence. A close friend reminded me that Jesus spoke the words of Psalms 31:5 when He said “Into your hands I commit my spirit…” NIV. Those are words of worship. Even in His agony, Jesus worshipped His way out of life on earth into His Father’s presence. As you serve, instead of burning out, just imagine worshipping out. Let us worship every day from now till eternity!
Easter is God’s proclamation to the world that Jesus finished what He came into the world to do. He paid the full penalty for sin and saved the world. As a result, those who accept the gift of Jesus’ sacrifice will enter heaven.
I serve a God who stayed focused. And I serve a God who finished. I serve a God with the courage to leave some people behind who did not understand God's standards so He could stay committed to saving the world. This Easter, do you need the power of the resurrected Christ to walk away from some people or some things so you can stay focused and finish well?
Happy Easter from my heart to yours!
Anita Carman, Founder and President
Inspire Women
Feel Good-Good Friday Song: Step Aside - Yolanda Adams
I am trying to develop a new persona of myself to not let people like that mess with my growth, but let me tell you it is a hard pill to swallow because I want to call them out on their ish. Anyway, today is Good Friday and our minds should be set right on the meaning of this weekend. It's not about pretty clothes, hats or shoes, it's not about eggs or rabbits but about our savior Jesus Christ who died for our sins.
Anita Carman’s Easter
Reflections
Since Easter is around the corner, I wanted to
share this reflection with you. Someone asked me what Easter meant to me and
this is what I said: Easter reminds me I serve a God who stayed focused to finish His mission. From the day He began His mission, Jesus was headed towards the cross. He knew what He had to do in order to save the world. He knew there was no other way to satisfy God but to be the ultimate sacrifice to pay for the sins of the world. When He was arrested, He did not say, “Peter promised to be here. Since he left, I can leave too!” When He was tortured He did not say, “I did not expect it to be this hard.”
When He could not feel God’s presence the next words out of His mouth were, “Into your hands I commit my spirit.” How can you commit your spirit into the hands of someone you just said wasn’t there? Though He did not feel God’s presence, He chose to believe God was there. And He chose to finish in faith even when He did not feel God’s presence. A close friend reminded me that Jesus spoke the words of Psalms 31:5 when He said “Into your hands I commit my spirit…” NIV. Those are words of worship. Even in His agony, Jesus worshipped His way out of life on earth into His Father’s presence. As you serve, instead of burning out, just imagine worshipping out. Let us worship every day from now till eternity!
Easter is God’s proclamation to the world that Jesus finished what He came into the world to do. He paid the full penalty for sin and saved the world. As a result, those who accept the gift of Jesus’ sacrifice will enter heaven.
I serve a God who stayed focused. And I serve a God who finished. I serve a God with the courage to leave some people behind who did not understand God's standards so He could stay committed to saving the world. This Easter, do you need the power of the resurrected Christ to walk away from some people or some things so you can stay focused and finish well?
Happy Easter from my heart to yours!
Anita Carman, Founder and President
Inspire Women
Feel Good-Good Friday Song: Step Aside - Yolanda Adams
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